Frequently Asked Questions and Answers from Instagram
November 21, 2018
I recently posted on my Instagram story a photo, asking my viewers to direct message me any questions they had wanted to ever ask me. I got some interesting and fun questions to answer for a Q + A Part II. I wanted to answer them all in one blog post for those who want their question answered, and for others who are just curious. So, without further ado, let us get to the questions!
“What is something you like about Instagram and something you do not like?”
I enjoy the community of mothers who are now close friends of mine and speak to me on a daily basis. It makes me feel more included in society because since I am so busy working and raising little humans, I have no social life anymore. Therefore, it is nice to have virtual friends to chat with whenever I need encouragement, advice or a good laugh.
Instagram is a wonderful platform, but some people often try to depict a picture-perfect reality on their feed that is complete utter bullcrap, and I feel like those people inflate more self-esteem issues for people who feel like they are barely rising to the occasion (of motherhood). Instagram should be for people to feel comfortable in sharing their vulnerabilities in raw form so mothers everywhere can relate. If people keep trying to promote a false narrative just for business purposes, Instagram will only become an unhealthy platform.
“Are you planning to have any more kids?”
Everyone always asks this! I am happy with my son and daughter. I always said I wanted to be a mother of four kids, which I already am. I have two biological kids and two stepchildren. We had difficulty planning Jade so to have her alive and well is a blessing. Big Drew and I have not spoken about any more kids, but I would not be surprised if three years from now, we decided to have a new member of the family. We love having children to nurture and raise together so who knows!
“Are you happy being back at work?”
I am very happy to be back at work! For a brief period, I thought I could be a stay-at-home mother because I could not imagine being away from my kids. However, I love working. I love my profession. The idea of not providing financially for my family and being home every day gives me a very unsettling feeling. I think some people cope with that lifestyle well, but I am not one of those people. I need to work, be financially independent, and feel like I am making a difference in a working environment.
“How do you get companies to send you products to try out?”
If you are interested in learning more about this, I can certainly write an entire blog post about this. I can share my honest tips and marketing strategies that have helped me work with the wonderful companies that I have collaborated with so far!
“What hair products do you use on your son’s hair?”
“What is your favorite lens and what camera do you use?”
I have a Canon Rebel T6i, which I love with 18-55 mm lens (not the best) so I upgraded to 1.4 mm lens. My social media pictures are mainly taken from my iPhone 8+ though.
“What is your biggest insecurity?”
Over the last two years, I’ve truly learned to not stress insecurities but to embrace them. However, I’m four months post-partum, and I’m now beginning to experience my hair thinning out and falling out. It is scary to see bald patches on my hairline because of the amount of hair that has fallen out in the last couple of weeks, but I keep reminding myself it is temporary. Other than that, I have no other complaints.
“How do you keep your feed perfect?”
My feed is NOT perfect, but thank you! I appreciate when people notice my pathetic attempts to keep a consistent feed. I try to shoot all my photos during the day with natural lighting. I do my best not to shoot in-doors but if it happens, it happens. I post photos of my kids and avoid posting any images of objects as the main display image (a slight pet-peeve of mine). Also, every photo has to have an object or accent tone of orange (it will change to red by Christmas though). I raise the exposure, whites, and blacks in all of my images and bring down my highlights and shadows. That is pretty much it! I try to keep it pretty basic.
“What’s the best advice you got as a mother and your worst advice?”
I did have to think long and hard about the worst piece of advice I ever got. So, when Big Drew and I were trying to conceive to have a second baby together, it was HARD. I can blog about this separately if you all want to know (let me know). I saw a specialist, and she told me I needed to immediately stop breastfeeding because the medication I wanted would not work well while nursing because it could cause a miscarriage (false, false, false—I did my research). Secondly, SHE felt my son, who was fifteen months at the time, didn’t need to be nursed anymore. I can understand giving professional advice, but when I had told her his age, you should have seen the disgust in her face. I cried in front of her because she was so rude and judgmental. A mother who breastfeeds goes through a lot, and people always feel the need to meddle with their journey when it. Is. None. Of. Their. Business. After all, the longer a mother breastfeeds, the more nutrients the baby receives for a healthy and complete diet. People have their reserved opinions about breastfeeding, but you can keep them to yourselves when talking to a breastfeeding mother.
Now, the best advice I ever got was to be present in the moment with my kids because the days are long, but the time is short. I think back to when my son was born, and those first twelve months FLEW by, but I was not present. I was a full-time student with two part-time jobs AND interning so really, I was a mother, a full-time student, and an employee to three different agencies. I still get chills when I think of those days, but I’m more present now with my daughter and son. They only want to see your face and hear your voice because nothing else makes them happier.
“How do you like the age gap between your kids?”
My kids are all a different age. My two oldest are ten and eight. My two biological children are only twenty-five months apart, which I think is great! I love their age gap because I did want them some-what close in age. I wanted them to grow up always remembering their childhood with a sibling.
“How long have you and your husband been together?”
We are not married (yet)! We’ve been together for four years, but it will be five years in the upcoming new year.
“What is your next planned vacation?”
We have our beach house booked for next August with the extended family but at a different beach this year so it should be fun! There is nothing else planned as of right now before then, but we will probably stay at the cabin a couple times before then. If we have a vacation other than that, it will be spontaneous!
“Did you finish school or do you just work at one?”
I work at a community college, but I am not a student there, no.
“Where do you see yourself in the next couple of years?”
I want to be in a higher level position with my completed master’s degree in higher education, and I want to be in my forever home so the kids can grow up in one house throughout their childhood.
“How great is it to know you have the most beautiful children on the planet?”
I’m thankful that they are healthy with ten fingers and ten toes, but yes, I often look at them and say, “Wow, I made those little perfect angels.”
So there you have it! I managed to answer all fifteen questions that I got from Instagram. I hope you enjoyed this blog post. I enjoyed the questions that were asked. Thank you to those who messaged me and made the second edition possible. If there is a question you want me to address, comment down below or send me a private message. Please stay tuned for more of my upcoming blog posts!